Quiet in my mind
Temporarily at rest
Peace is happiness
New York
Feeling Not So Guilty
We go all day long, all week long, all year long. Is there anytime to just sit and do mindless and useless things? It took me a long time to realize that yes there is time to sit and do nothing or do exactly what you want. I feel like that is the only way I can regroup and get myself motivated again.
Guilt stricken is the best way I can describe how I used to feel about wanting to do this. I think it stems from my childhood. No, I know it stems from my childhood. My mom was OCD nonstop. She wasn’t clinically diagnosed as OCD but the signs were there. Back then, there was no special diagnosis for overly cleaning, obsessing, or being anal retentive about everything she did. God rest her soul. She was the epitome of having EVERYTHING in an orderly fashion. In turn, it rubbed off on me in different ways. I felt like I could never let the dust go, let the mail pile up, do the dishes on an as you use basis. It’s hard because of so many reasons. One because I used to care what people think. Specifically my ex-husband, relatives, friends who visited, and my kids.
In spite of letting things go, people will be people. Either they’ll judge you or they won’t. But in the scheme of things, either way it does not matter. Let them judge. Let them think however they are going to think. It’s okay to do what YOU want.
What matters most is how you feel. You have to be mindful of yourself. Screw everyone else around you. I know it isn’t easy. It took me probably 45 years to realize this. It’s hard enough to survive in this world so let the small things go and do you. Take care of you.
Not Sitting Right
If something isn’t sitting right with your soul, change it. It could be anything from your shoes, hairstyle, flower arrangement, residence, partner, friends, anything. Change it. Why feel off or carry that feeling of being uncomfortable?
Take time and think about what is irking you. There is always a way out. Some changes might take longer than others as well as the effort you put into it, but it can be done.
Do you feel that little off kilter ping inside your gut? Is it throwing your whole vibe/mood off? Develop a plan or just eliminate what it is that is annoying you, or making you mad/sad.
Get rid of that stressed out feeling.
How? First question, what is it exactly that is making you feel blah. Why is it making you feel that way? Is it something that can be easily or hard to remove out of your life?
By all means, not everything is easy just to make it go “poof” disappear. You might be dealing with a sick or dying loved one. In that case, do what you can to make that person or yourself feel better. If you are under stress because of it, there is no way you can make that person feel better or realize that your loved one is in a better place. Life is supposed to be celebrated. It isn’t healthy to hold on to something that was inevitable.
Holding on to the past is a definite way to induce those blah feelings. What’s in the past is in the past. Leave it there. Live in the here and now. Past relationships should be looked as a lesson in life and nothing else. Thinking in your mind, what could have, should have is not leaving any room for what can be.
Don’t let another second go by without realizing that it’s not okay to be not okay.
~ Keep it simple and sweet ~
Find the Joy in Your Life
We are all struggling with something in our life. Health, relationships, financial hardships, mental well-being, physical well-being or know someone who is going through the same.
During these times, try to find the joy in life. Anything. There is always something good that can cancel out the bad. Celebrate life while you can. Celebrate the life you have with others. Take advantage of the time you have on this earth and make the most of it. You can’t get those moments back. There are no redos in life. One shot. That is it. Do whatever it is to make peace with yourself.
Sometimes you have to let the small and big things go. Is it worth the aggravation to get the last word in or go to extreme measures because you think you’re right? Everyone has their own beliefs and opinions but it doesn’t necessarily mean that is the only way.
Breathe, let go, appreciate, and think. Your brain is what control your emotions. Think positive and passionate. You still have a chance to get it right.
~Simple Sweet Living~ 