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Am I not worth an appetizer?

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So I haven’t blogged in quite sometime now. I was going to reset myself and jump into it with a post titled, “A Better Me.” But, a million other thoughts came my way and I feel that it was time to say how I really feel.

I am 52-years-old. Single. Well sort of yes but, yes, yes I’m single woman. Who am I kidding. I talk to other men and have visions of me going on a date, finding out that I can be compatible with someone else but….. it stops even before the date. It stops with a stupid comment during the “text conversation” not even a phone conversation. Hmm, I think even further, did our banter get you off? Oh my God. No wonder why women resort to FansOnly or OnlyFans. They might as well get paid for the crap they get put through.

We exchange hellos, how are you, what’s new…then here it comes, the sexual innuendos. Why, why, why, do people not think before they speak? Do they realize that there is a right way and a wrong way?

Am I the one who is wrong? Is that how it’s supposed to be? Friendly banter and then bang? Literally, bang.

No. It doesn’t feel right. I have changed. Things changed. Situations have changed. This is a different period in my life that shouldn’t be one moment of self gratification and then that empty hole feeling. That feeling of eating a buttery English muffin with the butter dripping and afterwards realizing that’s it, it’s gone and I feel the buttery drippings, sliding down my arteries and a sluggish, why did I do that, kind of feeling.

Ya know what, I am worth that appetizer. I am worth a steak dinner at Prime. I am worth a dozen roses.

I am worth more then a 10 min frolic, there you go, get your rocks off, fling in bed. Way more. No buttery English muffins for me.

Is my vibe giving them the feeling that there will be nothing more after the dinner and roses? Maybe that will be case but I will not put myself out there so you can get your 10 mins of self-gratification at my expense. I am sorry. No I’m not. I’m not sorry and neither should any woman or man out there that goes through the same thing.

You are worth so much more. Don’t settle for that English muffin and butter feeling.

(This post was originally a draft from a year ago and like many others that I never had the nerve to post). Slowly but surely I will publish them. Just another obstacle that I have to get over).

Not Sitting Right

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If something isn’t sitting right with your soul, change it. It could be anything from your shoes, hairstyle, flower arrangement, residence, partner, friends, anything. Change it. Why feel off or carry that feeling of being uncomfortable?

Take time and think about what is irking you. There is always a way out. Some changes might take longer than others as well as the effort you put into it, but it can be done.

Do you feel that little off kilter ping inside your gut? Is it throwing your whole vibe/mood off? Develop a plan or just eliminate what it is that is annoying you, or making you mad/sad.

Get rid of that stressed out feeling.

How? First question, what is it exactly that is making you feel blah. Why is it making you feel that way? Is it something that can be easily or hard to remove out of your life?

By all means, not everything is easy just to make it go “poof” disappear. You might be dealing with a sick or dying loved one. In that case, do what you can to make that person or yourself feel better. If you are under stress because of it, there is no way you can make that person feel better or realize that your loved one is in a better place. Life is supposed to be celebrated. It isn’t healthy to hold on to something that was inevitable.

Holding on to the past is a definite way to induce those blah feelings. What’s in the past is in the past. Leave it there. Live in the here and now. Past relationships should be looked as a lesson in life and nothing else. Thinking in your mind, what could have, should have is not leaving any room for what can be.

Don’t let another second go by without realizing that it’s not okay to be not okay.

~ Keep it simple and sweet ~

Guest Blog for today my sister and author, Janina Grey

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 April 24, 2022

Hello everyone! I would like to introduce my amazing sister and author, Janina Grey. She is a woman who has persevered throughout her entire life to reach her goal of becoming an author. Janina has met many obstacles that could have ultimately ruined her chances of becoming published and prevented her from accomplishing this long life goal that she pursued and never gave up on.

I encourage you to read her books because I can assure you in many ways you will be able to relate to her characters who make you feel that love is possible no matter what the circumstances are that could prevent it from happening.

I love you Bean and I am so proud of the woman and human being that you are. You are truly my inspiration and helped convince me that giving up was never an option.

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Thank you, Jeana, for inviting me to Guest Blog at your beautiful site. Simple Sweet Living feels like a warm hug, a pat on the back, or an encouraging talk every time I visit. Your words are down to earth and real, and it’s an honor to be a part of the Simple Sweet Living experience.

Traditionally, my guest blog experience is dedicated to completely promoting my books. But, in light of where I am posting, I’d like to refocus a bit.

Strong Women. We are the ones who have been dealt rough times over and over again, get knocked down, but pick ourselves up and say it will be better tomorrow.

Amazing Women. These strong women are amazing in that they refuse to let anything or anyone get them down. They are focused on goals. Protective of loved ones. Honest and hardworking. Positive and uplifting. Giving and nurturing. They will do anything for you if they count you as their friend or a loved one.

Resilient Women. Will only take so much crap. Then they re-assess their life, who they surround themselves with, and whether or not these people are real or fake, holding them down or lifting them up, and then they do what they have to do to make sure they are in the best possible place they can be – with or without the false people in their life.

Jeana is my role model. My inspiration. My mentor. Both for my own personal life, but also for the characters I create in my romance novels.

In my soon-to-be-released romance novel published by Soul Mate Publishing and set to release on Amazon.com on April 27, LIFE IS FOR LIVING, Jayde MacMillan is a KICK ASS SINGLE MOM, who is as ferocious as a Mama Bear, driven and motivated to provide for her two twin toddlers, and not afraid to go it on her own.

She is a lot like Jeana. And Me. And So Many Other Moms (Single or Not) I’ve had the pleasure to meet and get to know.


We are a hardy breed. And we deserve to be recognized, loved, looked up to, and honored.

So here is to all the Moms out there who put their dreams aside to become a mom. Here is to all the Moms who started out with a Dad in their kids’ lives but realized they had to make a tough choice and go it alone for the sake and sanity of themselves and their kids. Here is to all the FEARLESS WOMEN who pick themselves up DAY after DAY and keep moving forward because that is what we do.

You all are amazing, strong, resilient, inspirational women and deserve to be recognized and honored.

In LIFE IS FOR LIVING, Jayde will do what she has to do to keep her kids safe. In LOVE IN THE FOREST, Brooke Meadows will not be wooed or glamoured in exchange for her independence and wellbeing. In TEN BUCKS AND A WISH, Deanna Drake will not put up with any BS from any man, and will not be coerced into compromising her life dreams.

They all are in some way reflective of my path, my sister’s path, and the path of so many women in real life.

There is a phrase I’ve used in my life through my day job: Strong Alone, Fearless Together. That’s us. That’s the moms and single moms and the resilient women who refuse to be kept down. Who believe in goodness and kindness and who will settle for nothing less.

Thank you, Jeana for being an inspiration to me and for my characters.

You are an AMAZING WOMAN.

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If you want to meet the FEARLESS WOMEN I write about, check out my books at amazon.com/author/janinagrey 

You will not be disappointed.

My latest release will be available on April 27, but you can pre-order it now so it is automatically delivered as soon as it’s released. Don’t miss out!

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The House is a Mess

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Forget everyone else. What does everything mean to you? The big and the little. The fact that you love binging on Sex and the City and spending two days doing absolutely nothing, means that you can and who cares. The house is a mess, garbages are full, work needs to get done but eh it will eventually.

When it’s time to get your ass in gear you will. Don’t beat yourself up. When? When? When?

Take a deep breath. Look around. What needs to be done? Make a mental note of it. Wake up, sit up, and kick that road block down(when you’re ready).

Do a mass dump. Lol. Dump the garbages and dump the laundry in one basket. Get in the shower to get you motivated and while you’re in there, spray it down with some cleaner(not bleach) and scrub away.

Scrub away and wash whatever is keeping you in bed down the drain.

You’re entitled to a couple of non motivated days but eventually you gotta get going.

Whatever situation you’re in at the moment it’ll pass. Do something little to get your mind off of it. Get a roll of paper towels, spray down the toilet, sink, tub and scrub your little heart out.

It takes just one thought or action to get out of your slump. One step. That’s it. When you’re ready though. Don’t push. You’ll know.