Guest Blog for today my sister and author, Janina Grey


 April 24, 2022

Hello everyone! I would like to introduce my amazing sister and author, Janina Grey. She is a woman who has persevered throughout her entire life to reach her goal of becoming an author. Janina has met many obstacles that could have ultimately ruined her chances of becoming published and prevented her from accomplishing this long life goal that she pursued and never gave up on.

I encourage you to read her books because I can assure you in many ways you will be able to relate to her characters who make you feel that love is possible no matter what the circumstances are that could prevent it from happening.

I love you Bean and I am so proud of the woman and human being that you are. You are truly my inspiration and helped convince me that giving up was never an option.

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Thank you, Jeana, for inviting me to Guest Blog at your beautiful site. Simple Sweet Living feels like a warm hug, a pat on the back, or an encouraging talk every time I visit. Your words are down to earth and real, and it’s an honor to be a part of the Simple Sweet Living experience.

Traditionally, my guest blog experience is dedicated to completely promoting my books. But, in light of where I am posting, I’d like to refocus a bit.

Strong Women. We are the ones who have been dealt rough times over and over again, get knocked down, but pick ourselves up and say it will be better tomorrow.

Amazing Women. These strong women are amazing in that they refuse to let anything or anyone get them down. They are focused on goals. Protective of loved ones. Honest and hardworking. Positive and uplifting. Giving and nurturing. They will do anything for you if they count you as their friend or a loved one.

Resilient Women. Will only take so much crap. Then they re-assess their life, who they surround themselves with, and whether or not these people are real or fake, holding them down or lifting them up, and then they do what they have to do to make sure they are in the best possible place they can be – with or without the false people in their life.

Jeana is my role model. My inspiration. My mentor. Both for my own personal life, but also for the characters I create in my romance novels.

In my soon-to-be-released romance novel published by Soul Mate Publishing and set to release on Amazon.com on April 27, LIFE IS FOR LIVING, Jayde MacMillan is a KICK ASS SINGLE MOM, who is as ferocious as a Mama Bear, driven and motivated to provide for her two twin toddlers, and not afraid to go it on her own.

She is a lot like Jeana. And Me. And So Many Other Moms (Single or Not) I’ve had the pleasure to meet and get to know.


We are a hardy breed. And we deserve to be recognized, loved, looked up to, and honored.

So here is to all the Moms out there who put their dreams aside to become a mom. Here is to all the Moms who started out with a Dad in their kids’ lives but realized they had to make a tough choice and go it alone for the sake and sanity of themselves and their kids. Here is to all the FEARLESS WOMEN who pick themselves up DAY after DAY and keep moving forward because that is what we do.

You all are amazing, strong, resilient, inspirational women and deserve to be recognized and honored.

In LIFE IS FOR LIVING, Jayde will do what she has to do to keep her kids safe. In LOVE IN THE FOREST, Brooke Meadows will not be wooed or glamoured in exchange for her independence and wellbeing. In TEN BUCKS AND A WISH, Deanna Drake will not put up with any BS from any man, and will not be coerced into compromising her life dreams.

They all are in some way reflective of my path, my sister’s path, and the path of so many women in real life.

There is a phrase I’ve used in my life through my day job: Strong Alone, Fearless Together. That’s us. That’s the moms and single moms and the resilient women who refuse to be kept down. Who believe in goodness and kindness and who will settle for nothing less.

Thank you, Jeana for being an inspiration to me and for my characters.

You are an AMAZING WOMAN.

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If you want to meet the FEARLESS WOMEN I write about, check out my books at amazon.com/author/janinagrey 

You will not be disappointed.

My latest release will be available on April 27, but you can pre-order it now so it is automatically delivered as soon as it’s released. Don’t miss out!

AUTHOR LINKS:
Pop in and say hi!
Website: www.janinagrey.com quirkyflirt.com amazon.com/author/janinagrey
Email: janinagrey143@gmail.com
Facebook: facebook.com/janinagrey
Goodreads: goodreads.com/author/show/18967836.Janina_Grey
Instagram: @janinagreyauthor
Twitter: @janina_grey
Bookbub.com: https://www.bookbub.com/profile/janina-grey

amazon.com/Life-Living-Earth-Sky-Book-ebook/dp/B09WNG7J7F/

The House is a Mess


Forget everyone else. What does everything mean to you? The big and the little. The fact that you love binging on Sex and the City and spending two days doing absolutely nothing, means that you can and who cares. The house is a mess, garbages are full, work needs to get done but eh it will eventually.

When it’s time to get your ass in gear you will. Don’t beat yourself up. When? When? When?

Take a deep breath. Look around. What needs to be done? Make a mental note of it. Wake up, sit up, and kick that road block down(when you’re ready).

Do a mass dump. Lol. Dump the garbages and dump the laundry in one basket. Get in the shower to get you motivated and while you’re in there, spray it down with some cleaner(not bleach) and scrub away.

Scrub away and wash whatever is keeping you in bed down the drain.

You’re entitled to a couple of non motivated days but eventually you gotta get going.

Whatever situation you’re in at the moment it’ll pass. Do something little to get your mind off of it. Get a roll of paper towels, spray down the toilet, sink, tub and scrub your little heart out.

It takes just one thought or action to get out of your slump. One step. That’s it. When you’re ready though. Don’t push. You’ll know.

Find the Joy in Your Life


We are all struggling with something in our life. Health, relationships, financial hardships, mental well-being, physical well-being or know someone who is going through the same.

During these times, try to find the joy in life. Anything. There is always something good that can cancel out the bad. Celebrate life while you can. Celebrate the life you have with others. Take advantage of the time you have on this earth and make the most of it. You can’t get those moments back. There are no redos in life. One shot. That is it. Do whatever it is to make peace with yourself.

Sometimes you have to let the small and big things go. Is it worth the aggravation to get the last word in or go to extreme measures because you think you’re right? Everyone has their own beliefs and opinions but it doesn’t necessarily mean that is the only way.

Breathe, let go, appreciate, and think. Your brain is what control your emotions. Think positive and passionate. You still have a chance to get it right.

Is it a sin to…


…have no motivation whatsoever? This isn’t about me committing sins either lol.

I’m feeling guilty because I have got next to nothing done today. In all fairness, I had a little incident at work the beginning of the week that put me out of commission for a few days. But, don’t we all once in a while? Is it the end of the world? No.

That’s neither here nor there because I can still function to a degree and I thank my lucky stars that it wasn’t worse.

I was off for 3 1/2 days. It set off total flashbacks for me. Covid quarantine flashbacks. Like most of you, I never ever want to experience that again.

That is the type of jolt we all need once in a while to make us appreciate life. It certainly gave me a wakeup call. That wakeup call is not letting events or people control my happiness.

Everyone gets into a funk periodically because of outside factors. I let this, whatever you call it umm stupid state of mind put me in a funk. I usually practice what I preach but for some reason this one was hard for me to shake off.

The time off gave me a chance to think about things though. Downtime to think is sooo important, but I will save that for another post.

There was a great article I read about not letting your emotions control you. It is like a built-in instinctual habit when a person lets their emotions control their cognitive thought process. It can ruin everything or it can make everything perfect. It all depends on you and your brain.

You’re bummed because you didn’t get the job, you didn’t pass the test, or someone hasn’t called or texted you back etc.

There are so many influences that affect our emotional state. The question is, how do we turn on and off those emotions? How can you reflect or intersect whatever is making your emotions go haywire?

It boils down to your brain. Conditioning your thoughts to recognize that emotions are feelings and feelings can be altered literally in a split second. The key is to learn how to change your reaction to the actions that are affecting your emotions.

It sounds a lot more than it really is. I’m not saying that it is easy to turn off your emotions but controlling them with your thoughts, can be done.

Over the years I have learned how to not let certain events or people control my emotional state. I am not perfect at it but I’ve come a long way.

Emotions, the bad ones, can wreak havoc on your health. Depression, anger, and sadness, especially for a long period of time can really do damage to your overall well-being. It is worth it? The sadness or anger you went through and probably eventually got over, was it worth your time slighting yourself of happiness? Not only your happiness but the happiness of those around you as well.

There isn’t anything in this world worth not having peace of mind. Life is always going to happen no matter what you say or do. It is inevitable.

The one thing you do have control over is your mind. Keep it strong. Practice deflection. Those small idiotic things that you encounter that get your pissed or make you sad, shrug it off and ask yourself, is it worth bringing me into a bad emotional state? When you realize that there are no major catastrophes in life, only then will you start to feel peace.

Your time on this earth is so precious. Don’t waste it. Be at peace with yourself and those around you.

Okay, enough gibberish. Have a great weekend everyone. Enjoy life!