There’s no need to have regrets about the things you didn’t say, you did say, you didn’t do, or wish you did. They call it the past for a reason. Those mistakes, missed opportunities, or blessings are in the past for a reason.
Now is the time to get it right. Say what you feel and say it with confidence. But, on the flip side, are those words even worth saying?
Before you say it, think about what your intentions are and what it is you are looking to accomplish.
It doesn’t take much to ease your mind and body into a resting state. I like to call it “a cozy frame of mind.”
Make a cup of chamomile tea, dim the lights, grab your favorite blanket, and let yourself enjoy the quiet around you.
Stop thinking. Stop worrying. Stop stressing.
Just be in the moment calm, quiet, and still.
I live in upstate NY and you all probably know what that’s like. On average, we get about 8 months of cold/rainy/snowy weather and 4 months of rockstar weather. I love the change of seasons. Like everything else in life, even the sunshine could get exhausting also. I need to see those leaves changing to the fiery reds, burnt oranges, golden yellows, and deep purples. There’s also a different smell in the air. The smell of camp fires magically appear out of nowhere. Even the sounds are different. When the wind blows, you can hear the rustle of the leaves blowing across the ground. At the end of summer, my mom always said, “the trees, grass, and bugs are tired, and they need to rest too.” At first, I didn’t understand what she truly meant but I see it now. The once bright fresh greens that the leaves used to be now appear subdued and look like a deep olive color.
Change is good. I welcome change and I don’t mind whatever mother nature brings my way. I really love all types of weather in upstate NY.
What is “it?” It is anything that you don’t want to be doing. I’m still tip toeing around people in order to give them what they want and what they want to hear. I’m not doing this all the time just more than I want to at this point. I’ve gotten a lot better. I’m sure there are many of you who do the same. It’s internally agonizing. We fret over it constantly.
What is the issue with saying the word “no?” Why can’t we just spit it out. It’s the word we want to use but are afraid to for so many reasons. Reasons being, we are compassionate and caring people. How much more do you have to give? We say yes a lot of the time to make others happy but isn’t it time you make yourself happy? I’m 52-years-old and it’s time. I can’t spend the rest of my life for others.
It’s not just about the word “no.” It encompasses so much more. It’s really about our ability of not being able to give ourselves what we need. What is it that we really need? And is what we need a lot to be asking for?
Some wants are not materialistic and some wants don’t cost a penny. The want is something we desire from within. It’s peace. That’s it. It’s having mental peace. Peace with feeling and knowing you are doing exactly what you want.
Just do it. Take that step and don’t feel guilty about taking care of you.
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