Troy’s Waterfront Farmers Market, Troy, NY


There’s a certain kind of morning you don’t plan too hard you just show up and let it unfold. That’s what the Troy Farmers Market feels like. My girlfriend and I went to the first opening day, which starts in May the first Saturday and then every Saturday there after. We arrived about 9:30. I suggest you get there early because it tends to get a little crowded mid afternoon and you want to get a jump on the good stuff in the morning.

Tents stretch down the street, white canopies lined up against old brick buildings, the kind that have seen a hundred versions of the same Saturday. People move slowly here. Not lazy just unhurried. Coffee in hand, dogs weaving between legs, conversations that don’t feel rushed.

The first thing that pulls you in is the color.

Bouquets stacked in wooden baskets, wrapped in brown paper like small gifts. Deep reds, dusty pinks, wild textures that don’t look overly arranged just gathered. Behind them, wreaths hang in rows, each one slightly different, like someone took the time to make sure no two were exactly alike.

You keep walking, and it shifts from flowers to food without warning.

There’s a table with cheese pull-apart bread from a vendor called Ideals. It’s the kind of thing you don’t overthink you just know it’s coming home with you. Warm, soft, the kind of bread that pulls apart in layers and disappears faster than you expect.

A few tents down, the smell changes again. Something savory, heavier. That’s where Lidia’s Empanadas is set up. You order without much hesitation. They hand it to you hot, and you realize pretty quickly this isn’t a “save it for later” situation. You eat it standing there, half paying attention to the crowd moving around you.

Then there’s the quieter side of the market.

A produce stand stacked with greens bok choy, radishes, bunches of herbs still smelling like the ground they came from. I made roasted garlic and radishes as a side dish and it was delectably wonderful! You pick up basil and cilantro, not because you had a plan for them, but because they looked too fresh to pass up. That’s how a lot of decisions get made here.

Not everything is food.

There’s a small thrift setup tucked between vendors racks of vintage clothes, simple and a little unexpected in the middle of everything else. You flip through without urgency. It’s less about finding something and more about the act of looking.

And then there are moments you almost miss if you’re not paying attention.

Someone shaping pottery right there at their booth, hands steady, turning clay into something useful in real time. Tables of handmade goods. Old glassware arranged carefully on wooden shelves inside a shop just off the street quiet, warm lighting, a contrast to the open air outside.

The market isn’t loud in the way you’d expect. It’s full, but not overwhelming. People sit at small tables in the street eating, talking, staying longer than they probably planned.

You don’t rush through it. This is the type of place where you want to take your time browsing and leaving no stone unturned. I was in heaven.

You wander, double back, pick something up, put it down, then go back for it anyway. By the time you leave, you’ve got a mix of things you meant to buy and things you didn’t but somehow all of it makes sense together.

That’s the thing about places like this.

You don’t just go for what you need. You go because it feels good to be there. I actually lost myself there for a bit which was exactly what I needed.

Being 55, Without Apology


There’s something quietly beautiful that happens in your fifties especially around 55 if you let it. A kind of clarity settles in. The noise fades. And for many of us, life finally begins to feel lighter.

You stop worrying so much about other people’s judgments. You don’t replay conversations the way you once did. Embarrassment loosens its grip. At some point, a simple truth clicks into place: most people aren’t paying attention to how you live and if they are, it’s often because they wish they had the courage to live more freely themselves.

Peace starts to feel like the ultimate luxury. Home becomes a sanctuary. Your bed, your routines, your dog, the quiet these things matter more than appearances ever did. You realize you don’t need more… you need less.

This is also the decade when many people finally learn to let go. You recognize when relationships carry ill intentions through words, actions, or patterns and you walk away without guilt. You stop taking things personally, because emotionally healthy people don’t invest their energy in trying to hurt others. And those who do? You wish them well. You pray for them. Then you choose distance.

So much comes into focus in your fifties. You step outside your comfort zone without fear. You simplify your space, your finances, your emotional world. You stop living above your means and start living within your values.

You no longer chase people to like you or love you. Real connection doesn’t need pursuit. And there’s a quiet confidence in knowing that the right partner the right people will fit your energy naturally, without force or performance.

Most of all, you learn how to speak honestly. Calmly. Directly. If something involves you, you address it with clarity, not defensiveness. Because by now, you understand that protecting your peace isn’t selfish it’s necessary.

Your fifties teach you this: letting go of nonsense isn’t loss it’s freedom.
It’s the season where you stop living for approval and start living with intention.
And for many of us, that realization feels like coming home to ourselves for the first time and living in the moment.

And the most surprising part of all? I don’t feel my age I feel younger than I ever did. It’s crazy! Not in a chasing youth kind of way, but in a grounded, settled way. I feel lighter and freer. There’s an ease now that didn’t exist before now, when everything felt rushed, heavy, or uncertain. This kind of feeling comes from self-acceptance, from knowing who you are and no longer apologizing for it. I never thought I would reach this point in my life, but I did and so could you at any age actually.

The Quiet Permission to Let Go


If you think about it, winter forces stillness. It’s something we have no control over, it simply is. The snow softens everything around us. It hides the letting go of the temporary, vibrant life we’re given in the spring and throughout the summer. But even this form of life gets tired. It grows weary of the heat, the wind, and the rainstorms.

The same goes for people. We get tired of the challenges life puts us through. The difference is, we can break those cycles. We have the ability to shelter ourselves from what damages us.

Protect yourself, and let go of the things, and the people that do you no justice. When you feel worn down or cornered, remember to protect yourself and your peace.

Rise Above The Table (1 – 2 minute read)


So since the 1600’s the term influencer has been inciting both good and bad behaviors in everyone. As of late, it’s also a term that I’ve heard used more often than ever.

What is an influencer? Someone who promotes an idea or product right?

There are influencers all around us everyday and everywhere. At work, home, friends, family, and acquaintances included.

Don’t be influenced. Stop and think. When you are being offered something, anything, what is the feeling or thought you are having before you take someone up on that offer? It can be something as little as a drink, food, or something to do. Do you feel any hesitations whatsoever? Good, bad, or indifferent feelings? Stop and give yourself just 2 – 3 second quick evaluation in your head. Do I want this? If you have to ask yourself that question then say no for the time being and then make the decision.

Whatever it is, whether it’s an invite, a drink, or as little as something to eat, don’t feel pressured, don’t go, don’t eat it, don’t drink it. You have to do you. Never feel you have to do anything just for the sake of doing it because you’re in the moment. Do it because you truly want to.

Take care of YOU because no one else will.