What is “it?” It is anything that you don’t want to be doing. I’m still tip toeing around people in order to give them what they want and what they want to hear. I’m not doing this all the time just more than I want to at this point. I’ve gotten a lot better. I’m sure there are many of you who do the same. It’s internally agonizing. We fret over it constantly.

What is the issue with saying the word “no?” Why can’t we just spit it out. It’s the word we want to use but are afraid to for so many reasons. Reasons being, we are compassionate and caring people. How much more do you have to give? We say yes a lot of the time to make others happy but isn’t it time you make yourself happy? I’m 52-years-old and it’s time. I can’t spend the rest of my life for others.

It’s not just about the word “no.” It encompasses so much more. It’s really about our ability of not being able to give ourselves what we need. What is it that we really need? And is what we need a lot to be asking for?

Some wants are not materialistic and some wants don’t cost a penny. The want is something we desire from within. It’s peace. That’s it. It’s having mental peace. Peace with feeling and knowing you are doing exactly what you want.

Just do it. Take that step and don’t feel guilty about taking care of you.