Rise Above The Table (1 – 2 minute read)


So since the 1600’s the term influencer has been inciting both good and bad behaviors in everyone. As of late, it’s also a term that I’ve heard used more often than ever.

What is an influencer? Someone who promotes an idea or product right?

There are influencers all around us everyday and everywhere. At work, home, friends, family, and acquaintances included.

Don’t be influenced. Stop and think. When you are being offered something, anything, what is the feeling or thought you are having before you take someone up on that offer? It can be something as little as a drink, food, or something to do. Do you feel any hesitations whatsoever? Good, bad, or indifferent feelings? Stop and give yourself just 2 – 3 second quick evaluation in your head. Do I want this? If you have to ask yourself that question then say no for the time being and then make the decision.

Whatever it is, whether it’s an invite, a drink, or as little as something to eat, don’t feel pressured, don’t go, don’t eat it, don’t drink it. You have to do you. Never feel you have to do anything just for the sake of doing it because you’re in the moment. Do it because you truly want to.

Take care of YOU because no one else will.

It’s okay to walk away


We are all entitled to our own opinions and beliefs. I don’t judge, I don’t become angry, I’m not resentful, and I don’t hold anything against anyone because of someone’s own beliefs.

What I will do is walk away. I will walk away from subliminal comments and subtle digs that are thrown at me if I don’t agree with others.

It’s okay to cut ties for your own good.

It’s not for anyone else to make sense of why you do what you do. It only has to make sense to you. Have confidence when stepping away from relationships that make you feel inferior, dismissed, or small, Your peace is worth more than proximity.

An Important Day


I usually shy away from posts that center on me. When I do write, I try to use myself as an example to get my point across but this post will be different. I’m 55 years old!!! Wow. It’s taking a while to fully register in my brain.

I recently joined Hinge, the dating app. I’ve tried others in the past. I’d go on and off, giving it about 5–10 days, then cancel my subscription. I’m starting to think that what I want just isn’t out there. It feels like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Or could it be that I’m subliminally changing up my checklist to avoid this whole having-a-partner kind of thing?

Is it because I’ve been single for so long? Is four years a long time? I’m starting to think it is… I guess lol.

There’s no shame in solitude, at least not for me. I endured too much for too long to waste any more precious time settling.

My saying is: “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.”

A Cozy Frame of Mind