Seriously, who is to say that you have to like, love, or do something that you don’t want to? Other than obeying the law, everything and every choice in life is yours and yours only to make. Some are good choices and some are bad, but they are yours. You’re the one who has to reap the rewards of your choices or pay the consequences.
Okay, what’s the point and what am I trying to get at right? I have been a NY Giants fan since I was 15-years-old. And a true fan at that. When they had a bad season other Giants fan ridiculed and said they suck. Me, on the other hand continuously praised them and stuck by their side through thick and thin. In my opinion, that is a true dedicated fan.
Three and a half years ago I met my boyfriend (Mike) who is a Packers fan. All though my love and dedication for the Giants have never wavered, I did however gained a new respect for the Packers. I love the way they play. Rodgers, Jordy, Clay, Jake, etc., I must say they have it going on. Not only do I enjoy watching the team but the fans are so dedicated and support their team with unconditional love. How awesome is that?
My gripe is that people say there’s no way you can share your dedication to both the GMEN and Packers. You’re a trader. No, no, no. That’s not the case. Who is to say that I can’t share my love for both teams? Is there a fan police patrol that I’m unaware of??? In the scheme of things it is really ridiculous that there should even be a discussion about this kind of thing but then again I guess that’s what makes our world go around. I can love both teams and that is that.
But “the choice is yours,” goes for anything and everything. You can love or do whatever YOU want to do. My whole life I was a pushover. I didn’t have the ability to say no or voice my opinion. Why?? I was afraid and didn’t have the confidence.
I can say over the years I learned to say what I wanted to and I learned to say no. I know it took me 40 years to do it but better late than never. I think it was kind of an instantaneous action. I just got fed up and said no more. I was suffering from my inability and so were my kids. The one thing I didn’t want to happen was for them to follow in my foot steps but I already had seen my bad trait being absorbed by them. Not good.
Learn to say NO
- First step is don’t be afraid. I think that is where it all stems from. We are afraid to say no. What are your fears and reason from holding you back? If you said no, what are the consequences or gains from doing so? I’d say it’s a big gain from the start because you are doing and saying what YOU want to do. That in itself is a HUGE accomplishment. Congratulations for taking that step in the right direction.
- Realize that it’s okay to say no. Like I said before it’s your choice and no one else’s. It’s your body, mind, and decision. No one is going to benefit from saying no but you and that is a good thing. It’s time to take care of yourself. You only live on this planet one time so as quick as you can start doing what you want to.
- The first time you start saying no acknowledge the feeling you get from it. How did it feel? I know when I started saying no it was more than just a feeling. It was a life altering change for me. By saying no it was a chain effect. I felt like my confidence level went through the roof and that was monumental for me. Confidence is a key factor to accomplish anything in life. I truly believe that.
- Go with your gut. If you have that feeling way deep down in your gut that something is telling you no, then go with it. It sounds like such a cliche to some but I’m an avid fan of going with your gut instinct. Trust me it works.
I hope I helped someone, anyone with issues about saying no. Remember you have everything to gain from it. Good luck.
Why, as women, do we find it so hard to say no? After a lifetime of practice, I still get myself in all kinds of binds because I can’t be firm enough.
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I don’t know but you’re right and I still have the inability to say no in certain situations. It feels so much better to say no than to say yes at times! Thanks for replying.