I am no expert on peanut butter and salsa


Relationships. That is a big word. Relationships can be difficult and can be easy for the most part. They’re like recipes. Do peanut butter and salsa go together? For me, no. For others, maybe? It depends on your taste. The two key words there are, “your taste.” What might not work for you can very work well for others. Who are we to judge?

A relationship can’t be forced. If you really want something to work you should lay it all out before you start the process. Give that trial process sometime to figure out the other person. At least try. If a little ways down the road you feel like eh something isn’t sitting right, well you move on. Don’t stay in it to make the other person happy or because you think it’s the right thing to do. Don’t, because doing the “right thing” for any other reason than being in it because it makes you happy, isn’t the right thing. It will backfire and time will be lost. Time that’s lost and you can’t get back in this lifetime.

Be patient. Being alone isn’t a bad thing when you are waiting for the right one to come along. You will know it when it happens.

How long does it take?


How long does it take for someone to figure what makes them happy? I guess it varies on the person. What’s important to you? What is it that can truly make you happy? What is stopping you?

Is it fear, change, money, or someone else or even yourself? Do you think you are truly happy?

Anything and anyone can be holding you back.

It’s time to make the change or at least have a plan to move forward.

Listen to Me


Stop worrying, stop feeling bad about hurting other peoples feelings when you are hurting inside because of them. If they have no regard for you that’s not a reflection of what you’re doing, that’s all on them. You need to move on. No matter how much you apologize and no matter what you say it will not change their behavior. Why should you suffer because of it? Stop.

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This is What You Deserve


Good morning. Make it a good morning regardless of what is or who has got you feeling anything but fine. You deserve to feel good. Take 5 minutes to think rationally and realize that other people’s behaviors are not something that you did or provoked. People are in control of themselves. You are in control of you. You do not control how other people live, think, and act. You are not responsible for their happiness. You are responsible for YOU.

Let that sink it. Take a deep breath and do what makes you happy.

Relax, put your favorite show on, read that book, take a nap, pour a cup of coffee or tea and indulge in the little things that will get you through.