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5 Minutes of Meditation (Brain Break)

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Some of us struggle with finding ways to ground ourselves and create calmness within right? What does it take to get this moment done. Well for starters, time. We live in a hustle bustle world where we are going non-stop. Both physically and mentally. Our bodies and brains feel like a windup toy the minute our feet hit the ground. Our thoughts are a compilation of worries, schedules, priorities, and people to take care of. How is that going to happen when you can’t even find 5 minutes to clear your mind to give your brain a break? I call it just that, it’s a “brain break” to get myself in shape for what’s ahead.

Will taking 5 minutes for yourself really change or take away from anything that you have to get done for the day? Set a timer for 5 minutes wherever you are when you wake up, after you send the kids to school, or before you make your calls for the day and set aside 5 minutes to take care of YOU.

5 Minutes of Meditation

  • 1st minute: Be grateful and thankful for waking up and having the opportunity to be alive. Think, how did I get to where I am right now in life? Think of all the things that brought you to where you are now. Give it a good solid minute.
  • 2nd minute: Listen, look, and indulge at what is going on around you. The sound of your coffee perking, the birds chirping outside, the humming of the cars whirring past your house, the appliances humming doing their job. Everything going on around you that lets you recognize that you are alive and well.
  • 3rd minute: What do you have right now that lets you have internet, read this post, the device that brings you to reading this post, gives you electricity, keeps you warm, gives you something to sleep on, to communicate with others through? Get my drift? All these things are a blessing. They also give you the opportunity to keep going.
  • 4th minute: How can I use what I have to make my life even better? Take what you have in your life, all your resources to make things better. Everything tangible can change your life. Use what you have to do whatever it takes to get you to where you need to be. Including the people around you that encourage you, help you in the time of need, and those who you can always lean on. All these things and people were put in your life for a reason.
  • 5th minute: Give thanks to whoever you worship. It can be anything or anyone that you find solace in. A God, a friend, nature, anything that gives you peace, support, and hope. Devote your energy into that being for the sole reason of projecting your gratefulness out there. It will be recognized someway, somehow and trust me, it will be.

Jot down a summary of what you want to get out of your 5 minutes. Be diligent with following through and utilizing those 5 minutes to give you what you need to function properly throughout your day. It’s not being selfish and don’t make excuses. It’s only. 5 minutes!

There is no such thing as weird

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As the old saying goes, we all march to the beat of our own drum. What is good for you might not be good for others, but that doesn’t mean you are weird. I shake my head at people who have comments like that or insinuate that they way you do things aren’t the right way or different.

I am 52-years-old and I still have people telling me that I’m weird, or I do things weird. What does that even mean? Are people in this day and age still that narrow minded? I can’t even call those who make comments like that dumb, because they aren’t. They are just self-centered, narrow minded, one way thinkers who believe that if it’s not done their way, it’s considered weird.

I can’t lol. I’m laughing out loud as I type this.

Just because you choose to live your life the way YOU want, please don’t let anyone make you second guess yourself. If for whatever reason, you don’t like a certain food, you like to wear certain outfits or colors, you prefer coffee a certain way, that is okay. You are not weird. You are human.

There is nothing weird about anything or anyone. If someone does call you weird or the way you do things, that’s just because they are miserable. Feel bad for them because they live a monotonous life.

Happiness is achievable

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It’s about 8:00 and the house is super quiet. Boys are sleeping. Rain is falling, yes rain. Should be snow here in NY this time of year but eh rain always has a soothing way about it now matter how messy it makes the left over snow look.

Anyway this is the best time of the day when I can think. When I think I start typing away so here I go.

It’s two days away from my birthday and I feel the more I grow closer to my mid 40’s the clearer things become. Life is truly black and white. It’s either you live it and you live it happily or you don’t.

Why would you stop pursuing your happiness? The sky is limitless. Yes there are barriers to happiness such as yourself, other people, and circumstances but look at it this way, the only thing that can truly prevent yourself from being happy is death lol.

Remember this is the normal girl from Long Island talking(who now resides in upstate NY) again and who has been through A LOT and when I say A LOT of different barriers but nothing has stopped me from getting to where I needed to be at that very point in my life. Like right now. I’m resting finally. Hmmm or how else can I describe it..? I feel calm and peace in my life right now. But wait my life is not perfect omg not even close. I’m going to go into a little bit of detail just so you guys can relate to what is going on in my life and how I DO NOT let that have an impact on my happiness. Got that?

For starters, money is tight. When I mean tight I mean tight like 3 pounds of sausage in a two lb. bag tight lol.  My child support hasn’t come in in 3 weeks, I’m on the verge of a nervous breakdown interviewing and doing presentations for a job that I so desperately need and want. I’m having major issues with my 12-year-old son regarding just about everything and everything. And re-occurring trust issues with my boyfriend(partly because of my views on our relationship and how I handle things). Too much to explain. These issues are just the gist of it.

My point is that I am happy even with all of that going on. Do you know why?? Because I put everything in perspective. Money issues will always be there and if I don’t think positive those money issues will never get resolved. The CS will come in when it comes in. I am a little ahead on paying my bills so I have to look at that as a plus. If I continue to think positive about this job I am going to get, it will happen.

The issues with my son, aren’t really issues. It’s life and so be it. Things could be a lot worse and I am blessed that this is the extent of my issues with him.

The trust and control issues with my boyfriend is a whole other ball game. For the most part we get along great but in order to get back to where we were about five months ago, we need to work on our communication.

All this can be fixed. None of it is life threatening. If I continue to stress, it will be life threatening.

There is always a way. I’m reverting back to my earlier posts about positive thinking. It isn’t easy as I make it sound. It took me years and years to finally get this cycle working the right way.

The way I got to this point of realizing what is important to worry about and what isn’t, was by reading and googling everything about positive thinking and eliminate stress. Everyone does it in their own special way so sometimes you have to take bits and pieces of things that will work for you.

Trust me on this. Happiness is achievable. I promise. coffee