Words Hurt


It’s amazing how you can tell what a person is all about just by hearing their choice of words come out of their mouth. It could very well be that they don’t think about what they’re saying before they say it, or their true intentions are to throw that dig at you because they’re unhappy with themselves and even though they pretend to be okay, they’re not.

But, that’s no excuse. What’s the saying….”You can’t unring a bell.” Once you say it, it can’t be taken back. Those words will be forever etched into someones brain and all though you may think nothing of it, those words will have lasting consequences. Hurtful words or comments will never be forgotten.

You might think that the person you said those words too aren’t smart enough or capable of realizing what was said, that’s not the case. They’re just collectively storing everything in their thoughts, taking it in, and realizing that the person who says those things, lack intelligence and compassion. No matter how hard they try to make people believe that they are a good person, inside they are struggling and just don’t know how to follow through.

Pay no mind. The lesson learned is that you gain even more respect for yourself knowing that you aren’t like them. You are truly a good hearted individual.

You’re life might not reflect all the hard work, understanding, and compassion you give to others, but if you dig deep, it does. The satisfaction you have within because of being a good soul is what keeps you happy and true to the only person that counts, and that is yourself. That’s all that matters.

All Four


Daily writing prompt
What is your favorite type of weather?

I live in upstate NY and you all probably know what that’s like. On average, we get about 8 months of cold/rainy/snowy weather and 4 months of rockstar weather. I love the change of seasons. Like everything else in life, even the sunshine could get exhausting also. I need to see those leaves changing to the fiery reds, burnt oranges, golden yellows, and deep purples. There’s also a different smell in the air. The smell of camp fires magically appear out of nowhere. Even the sounds are different. When the wind blows, you can hear the rustle of the leaves blowing across the ground. At the end of summer, my mom always said, “the trees, grass, and bugs are tired, and they need to rest too.” At first, I didn’t understand what she truly meant but I see it now. The once bright fresh greens that the leaves used to be now appear subdued and look like a deep olive color.

Change is good. I welcome change and I don’t mind whatever mother nature brings my way. I really love all types of weather in upstate NY.

I am no expert on peanut butter and salsa


Relationships. That is a big word. Relationships can be difficult and can be easy for the most part. They’re like recipes. Do peanut butter and salsa go together? For me, no. For others, maybe? It depends on your taste. The two key words there are, “your taste.” What might not work for you can very work well for others. Who are we to judge?

A relationship can’t be forced. If you really want something to work you should lay it all out before you start the process. Give that trial process sometime to figure out the other person. At least try. If a little ways down the road you feel like eh something isn’t sitting right, well you move on. Don’t stay in it to make the other person happy or because you think it’s the right thing to do. Don’t, because doing the “right thing” for any other reason than being in it because it makes you happy, isn’t the right thing. It will backfire and time will be lost. Time that’s lost and you can’t get back in this lifetime.

Be patient. Being alone isn’t a bad thing when you are waiting for the right one to come along. You will know it when it happens.

This Will Not Be Another Draft (1 minute read)


I refuse to let another one of my blog post turn into a draft.

I hold back periodically because self-doubt and fear but where does that get me? Where does fear get us? It gets us further away from being at our happiest. What’s that quote…. hold on googling it. Ah yes, the great Wayne Gretzky said it best, “You miss a 100% of the shots you don’t take.” That quote has so many meanings.

Holding back and not taking those shots prevent you from what? Living life to your fullest? Saying how you really feel? Taking the path that’s right for you? Slighting yourself of what does your mind and body good?

You could be stuck in the “uncomfortable comfort zone.” Change is wicked scary. It took me 30 years to get to the point where I’m at. I didn’t have the resources or the power within to help me make that change right away. It was a slow process but I knew it had to happen or it would have gotten the best of me. It will get the best of you too if you don’t make a plan. Start slow but start somewhere.

Listen, life is never going to be perfect but if you have the right mindset and stay positive as much as you can, life will seem beautiful regardless.